Hi ladies!

 I know a lot of media and people are giving Robin Roberts huge kudos and slaps on the back for coming out but I, for one, am completely disgusted and think she is a coward. There has long been a debate that your personal life should remain personal when it comes to celebrities and people in the public eye, but is that really realistic? Not likely.

 As co-host on “Good Morning America,” Robin Roberts let herself into people’s homes and created that persona of being our “friend.” Many on-air personalities discuss aspects of their personal lives because they know we want to get to know them. It’s a natural thing to want to talk about your family and friends. How many times did we hear Kathie Lee drone on and on about her great husband Frank or Cody’s latest achievement? Regis involved his wife Joy so much in the show that she became a guest host. We all know that Savannah Guthrie is engaged. Hoda Kotb jokes about her single status on camera. Ellen may not talk that often about Portia, but we all know about her. Knowing these things about our hosts allows us to feel connected to them. It makes them more human when they talk about their spouse driving them nuts or their kid having a tantrum.

 I could have told you years ago that Robin was gay. Why? Because she never mentioned men or dating or anything even close to it. It was a huge black hole in her personal life and it was annoying.

Saying that your personal life doesn’t matter is just plain ridiculous. Like your career, your background and your race, it helps define who you are. When Anderson Cooper came out, he at first said that his personal life didn’t matter. But then he added, “It’s become clear to me that by remaining silent on certain aspects of my personal life for so long, I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something – something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid,” Cooper wrote. “This is distressing because it is simply not true.”

So what’s the deal Robin? You have been on “GMA” since 2005 and you JUST NOW are coming out to the public? Do you have any idea how many people you could have helped over these past EIGHT years?! Thousands, that’s how many.  I can only imagine how hard it was for your girlfriend Amber to have to go along with this charade for ten years. What kind of message are you sending to people that you felt you had to hide your true identity?

 I’m not saying that it’s easy to come out. I’m sure it is downright terrifying and could have huge consequences. For some public personalities, it can be a career killer. It’s hard to see an actor in a romantic comedy with a woman when you know he’s gay. It’s just not that believable or exciting anymore. Ricky Martin crushed a lot of female hearts when he came out. So did Clay Aiken I get it. I’m sure there are sponsors and advertisers and producers for that matter, on “GMA” who quieted Robin and told her it was safer not to talk. Maybe she was even threatened. But how can you live a lie, day in and day out, to millions of viewers?

Having amazing role models like Anderson Cooper and Robin Roberts (and a ton of others I could name), can be life-saving for young people struggling with their identity. Many teenagers run away from home because they are discriminated against for their sexuality. 20-40% of homeless youth identify as Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, or Questioning. Imagine the strength and pride they could feel by seeing successful gay people on a major TV morning show?

Knowing that intelligent, successful people have come out and been ACCEPTED lends much-needed strength to the gay community and also helps other communities see that they are not a threat or weird or screwed up. They are great people.

One of the best things about being in the public eye is that you can influence the public. You have a voice and that is a powerful thing. IT IS HUGE. By NOT revealing her sexuality, Robin Roberts just might have done a lot of damage. Let’s hope she makes up for it.