Enjoy your Saturday ladies!

Is eight enough??!!

Why are women so crazy about having more kids? I swear, I have a few friends who are just obsessed with having more. If they have one, they want two. If they have two, they want three.

One friend of mine has a daughter who she had naturally and has been trying for another for years. They are not candidates for in-vitro. Sad but that’s life. I see her at times completely stressed out and yelling at her kid. I know all parents yell at their kids, but watching it as a non-parent really freaks me out.

Another friend also has a daughter she had naturally and has tried in-vitro several times with no success. She talks and talks about wanting a baby and how great babies are. Needless to say, I hear nothing about how her wonderful daughter is doing. I say “How’s little Lisa doing?” and I almost expect her to say “Who?!”

Yet another has two kids she had naturally and still yearns for more. Meanwhile, all she does is talk about how busy she is and how she has no time for herself and how the kids are driving her crazy. She doesn’t even have time to go get a haircut or do anything else for herself. I literally had to talk some sense into her, reminding her how stressed out of her mind she is and how the hell could she handle another kid and am I the only sane person in this conversation?!

I see these women obsessed with the thought of more children and it seems to me that they are ignoring the ones they have. Sorry to sound harsh, but that is what I see. These are the same women bitching and moaning about the cost of kids and private school and worrying about how they are going to afford college and then they want more kids? I just don’t get it.

WHAT IS UP WITH THAT LADIES???

I worry that these ladies are focusing more on what they don’t have, and not what they have. Here I am, just one year married and no kids. I would be happy with one kid. It would be AMAZING to have one kid. I wish they could remember that ANY child is a miracle and the ones they have should not be taken for granted.

Here’s my theory – babies are cute. That’s it. People see babies and they want to hold them and dress them up and love them. But then they get older and talk back to you and don;’t want to brush their hair and become teenagers. So these parents yearn for the days when they had a cute little innocent baby. And this feeling is very contagious.

When I was telling a friend my wishes to have a kid and that it may be very hard at my age, she acted as if she was in the same boat. I had to remind her that she got pregnant the first time around with NO doctors and not even trying. She just had sex with her husband and voila. That was it. No ovulation kits, no bloodwork, no meds. Do these ladies know how lucky they are??

I’m not saying that I don’t feel badly for these women who can’t have another child. I think it is sad, and awful and heart-breaking. I’m just saying that to compare themselves to me is silly. We are not on the same page. They are way ahead in the game and I am not competing. I am trying to achieve what they already have!

I get so pissed when they look at me all sad and say “I understand. I’m going through the same thing.” Oh really? Then what the hell do you call the kid you have? A mirage? Because in my book, we are absolutely NOT in the same situation. At all.

So, for all you ladies who already have one kid, or two or five – please appreciate them and know how lucky you are. It is very easy to wish for more. That is normal. But letting this desire get in the way of your happiness and appreciating what you have is a problem. Please don’t sabotage yourself. For many women, having one child will never happen. Let’s hope I am not one of them.

P.S. If I DO ever have kids and then want 7 more, or bitch about wanting more and do the whole “woe is me” for not being able to have more, you can show me this post and say “I TOLD YOU SO!”

Cheers!